Accepted to ASAN's ACI Summer Leadership Academy

Just Heard:

Congratulations! You have been accepted to ASAN’s 2019 Autism Campus Inclusion (ACI) Summer Leadership Academy. We enjoyed learning about your advocacy goals for your campus, and are thrilled to welcome an exceptional group of self-advocates to our upcoming leadership training in Washington D.C.



The Making and Breaking of Relationships



The Making and Breaking of Relatioships
https://www.dailycal.org/2019/03/17/the-making-and-breaking-of-relationships/

I interviewed two psychology professors at UC Berkeley for my latest article in The Daily Californian.


The strategies in the article are powerful tools at our disposal, no matter the nature of the relationship (romantic, friendship, any type of association) or situation. Neurodiverse disabilities like AUTISM mean we need as big a toolkit as possible to navigate life and societal norms designed for a narrower set of the population.

I personally found a lot of irony in the "self-distancing" strategy discussed in the article. When I first started learning to communicate via typing as a teen, I used to always refer to myself in the 3rd person - I was, "the kid with autism," "the noble youth with autism." I was told every time to rephrase it in "first person" mode and use the words "I" and "Me".

At that time I grappled with the conundrum of reconciling the "We to Me."
Now I feel like I've come back a full circle, - "Me to We" was actually a good thing all along.

When Priviledge is Exploitation of the Disabled. Rinse Repeat



Today’s BBC and CNN and many other media outlets ran stories on Lori Laughlin’s daughter and how “apparently contrite” she is and how she blames her privilege for not even being aware of her mistakes.

Everyone is talking about how the sports quota was misused and how money was used to buy seats. There seems to be less outrage over the exploitation of a vulnerable population.

Why is there not more outrage
shame on you talk shows for inviting these people back and giving them visibility
Shame of you mainstream newspapers for highlighting and making newsworthy a carefully orchestrated PR image rebuilding campaign of celebrities, that too in a year where you were working on  touting the 30th anniversary of ADA.

Is this why 150 folks with disabilities crawled up the steps the steps of Capitol Hill in 1990 to get the ADA passed?

Is this the use for disability  accommodations.

It in incredibly hard for real disabled people to get a dx in order to access services.
Accommodations are hard fought for in order to provide equity of access for disabled people. it is a struggle to get even basic accommodations at every level often involving lawsuits.

I’m a psychology student and deeply ashamed of the psychologists who handing out disabled labels to privileged kids so they can exploit disability accommodations.  It's a violation of the disability community.

Shame on anyone who is enabling such people to become social influencers again.

What message are you sending. that its ok to exploit and violate a vulnerable  if you are privileged, because money can buy you a PR firm in case it backfires.


What is the message being sent out, that the disabled community are sitting ducks for exploitation as and when you want?

Coming and saying you was unaware because of your privilege seems like a made up another "privileged" excuse especially when you read the LA times article that talks about the methods used. Students were coached on how to act “slow” so they could get an learning disability dx. Which meant they got extra time for their SAT and ACT tests. 

Did privilege mask the fact that pretending to be slow to get a disability diagnosis is somehow wrong?

Did privilege mask that getting the extra time on tests or that private time seem not quite right?

Its not just exploitation, it feel like a violation of the disability community. it is real damage being done to the disabled community which is trying to so hard to make inroads into acceptance and inclusion.

If a person is really contrite, and wants to not just privilege as an excuse, try to truly understand the other side. Don’t talk the talk, walk the walk.  Koin the peace corps, go work in a real underprivileged area for a few years, without using it as a photo op or a background to your social media. Live like that community, dress like that community, eat like that community and do some good for that community.

You can only become a “somebody" when you become a “nobody" who is really making a  real difference to that community.


Your health is as safe as that of the worst-insured

 Your health is as safe as that of the worst-insured.


Holi@Cal

Holi 2019 @ Cal


3/16: Another March Holi at Cal that was a total Blast








Holi 2018 @ Cal

Holi March 2018 at Cal in the Foothill Parking Lot was loud and crazy.
I loved it.





Here's a video of Holi at Cal from a previous year