Ofa Lahi Atu

"Ofa lahi atu" is a phrase in Tongan that is often used to express deep love and respect.

The literal English translation of "Ofa lahi atu" is "much love to you", but its meaning goes beyond the words themselves. In Tongan culture, the expression is often used to convey a sense of gratitude, humility, and reverence for others, nature, and the divine.

In a philosophical sense, "Ofa lahi atu" can be understood as a recognition of the underlying unity and interdependence of all things. It suggests that love and respect are not only essential for personal relationships but also for the harmonious functioning of society and the natural world.

The phrase "Ofa lahi atu" can be relevant in the context of autism and disability by emphasizing the importance of love, respect, and interconnectedness. People with disabilities, including autistics, often face social, emotional, and physical challenges that can make them feel isolated and marginalized.

By expressing and acting with a feeling of "Ofa lahi atu" towards autistics, society can convey deep love and respect for autistics, affirm their dignity and worth as human beings. remind us that our interconnectedness extends beyond our immediate social circles and includes all.  It can inspire us to work towards creating a more inclusive and supportive society that values diversity, promotes empathy, and fosters mutual understanding.

Groups in the autism space community too needs to express and act with a mindset of “Ofa lahi atu’ towards each other, instead of the current vicious bickering between polarized groups of “who has the loudest voice” and undermining other groups. We can recognize each others unique strengths, be accepting of all challenges methodologies, and perspectives and work towards solutions that address a wide range of needs.

Tongan Kava Bowl

My late Raghavan Thatha (grandpa) also spent many years in Tonga. Tonga is one of the last remaining Polynesian monarchies in the world. This is a Tongan Drum and a Tongan Kava Bowl. Thatha & Paati (grandma) have been to many traditional Kava ceremonies.